"YIKES! Don't let them go back!"

I don't want them to go back. The guy isn't showing them the pictures, but what do I do if he thinks nothing is wrong with it? DPH always teeters on the line, but never crosses it. And unless he does something, there's nothing I can do aside from bitching him out and watching him like a hawk. The thing that concerns me is the girls are getting older.

Gia was deep in thought yesterday and all last night. I asked her what was wrong. She said that she has a whole different view of her dad now and is really bothered by it. She didn't know he was a pervert, in her words.

Finding your dad's dirty pictures may not seem like a big deal to some. But the AMOUNT of dirty pictures he has and the variations and the...did I say amount? He doesn't just have them in his drawers, he has porn in closets, in boxes and the computer, which I've mentioned before. Thousands upon thousands of pictures on the computer. When I lived with him they were of grown women. Women of all sizes.

I always watch the girls and have always watched them for behavior changes. I always always ask them questions and ask them how their dad's was and ask them if there's ever anything that makes them uncomfortable. Of course FINDING the pictures made Gia uncomfortable and sad. It's just so disrespectful to them. Lee talked with them a long time about it. He said he doesn't look at porn and really he doesn't. He gets mad if I follow a link to any site and it ends up on the computer. He said that usually women that pose for pictures feel bad about themselves and he feels it's taking advantage of someone else's weakness. He's hitting home the point that all men don't do this. I saw Dr. Phil on saying "No, ALL men do not do this..." talking about this very thing; a woman saying her husband looked at porn at least 20 hours a week. And I'm not a big fan of Dr. Phil, but I liked what he had to say.

It sends a bad message to the girls. They said they've seen him looking at it on the computer when he doesn't know they're there. Why would you need to do this while they're around?

His old girlfriend made a very good point. DPH used to have Beth and Heather come over to play with the girls and spend the night. Beth and Heather were a few years older than Cath and Gia. Beth looked older. She said that Beth and Heather would go over to his house even when the girls weren't there. Out of the kindness of his heart. What horseshit. DPH does nothing unless it's beneficial to him. She said she doubted he did anything to them, but she said you can bet that he was looking.

Ew. Really, how many single men have teenage girls over to their house out of the kindness of their hearts. Their mother was some kind of stupid.

So more talks with the girls tonight. After the party.

Lee is so done and I'm glad for him that he's out of that environment. I won't be surprised to hear that they get rid of the two kids Lee hired. That would be too damn bad because they were such good kids and were willing to work hard. What a thing to just treat people like trash to be thrown out on a whim.

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